© 2012 Sedef Örsel Özçelik

Dec 19, 2008

X-mas is coming...










Christmas is coming :)  It is really the most wonderful time of the year.  The 'good wishes', 'the cards' and oh!  The gifts...  The kids are all excited!  They are waiting for their wishes to be answered by Santa...
Here is my gift to all children (if you as the parents are willing to follow ...):
Please do not push your children to hug, kiss or show unwanted affection  to any of the family members who they could only see once a year...   Please do not push your kids to say 'thank you' when they don't want to...  
Instead please help them find a different way to show their affection and appreciation!
They may color or draw a picture and give it as thanks or showing their affection.  A high-five may do the trick.  They can sing a song or perform their favorite trick instead.
You as the parents call for a meeting with your kids in advance.  You can talk about different ways to show affection and appreciation to all friends and relatives they will meet over the holidays.  Planning together may turn into real fun and a great opportunity to connect with your children...  
Whereas pushing your kids to do something they don't want to, would only teach them to be resentful...
I wish you a great holiday season...  May our lovely planet will have all the peace and love it deserves this season...
Merry Christmas,
Sedef

Dec 5, 2008

5 Tips On Sharing











  1. Respect your children's property:  We as parents and society are the models of our children.  We demand others to respect our property.  We want to be asked when someone wants to borrow our book, pen, ladder, cd...etc.  Our children see this and they want to be asked as well!
  2. Respect your children's most important business: playing!  Children create stories and many different story lines during play.  They may need all their toys of the same variety for a specific story line.  
  3. Respect your child's dignity: Forcing children to share only hurts their feelings and help them lose their trust in our judgement.  Please do not force your children to share.
  4. Be a model:  Start sharing with your children and others as much as you can.  Share your books, bread, juice, clothes, your old toys, etc.
  5. Always Show Your Approval:  Whenever you see an action of sharing (a fall leaf picked  from the ground, a hug, a toy, candy, etc.)  by describing your child's behavior :"I can see that you just gave one of your m&ms to your brother, that's good sharing." 
SHARING CAN BRING MORE FUN AND MANY JOY :)
Let's share...
Sedef