A crying child runs into the house from outside, seeking comfort. The well-meaning parent's first words: 'What happened?!'
This common reaction is one of many subtle ways we teach our children values that we ourselves never consciously chose...
*What happened (the past) is more important than what's happening now (present).
*Reason is more important than emotions. You can't simply have a feeling; you have to explain 'why'.
*Things happen TO you. You don't create your own experience."
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When I read this piece, it amazed me!
1) How correct it was!
2) Just a simple reaction relayed so many messages...
3) With just a simple acknowledgment of feelings :
'Oh you are crying, and you look hurt!'... we could teach the importance of the present moment and feelings...