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Mar 15, 2009

Patience... patience...

Patience: the capacity of being not hasty or impetuous...

Patience is a key element for happy parenting :)  Here are some tips for keeping your patience:

  • Remembering the fact that our job as parents is not to control our children's behavior but to meet all their needs!
  • Emotions are contagious but stress moves even faster among people.  Remember that when you are stressed your children will act out even more.  Adapting daily stress relief remedies will help increase your patience...  Meditation, yoga, visualization, praying, taking a daily walk in the park, jogging are some  of the remedies you might like to consider...
  • When you feel  like losing it,  take a time out: address your need to vent and  your decision to take a time out.  Even a few minutes will give you a chance to calm down.   And you will set a good model for your children for their moments of melt down.
  • Remember the fact that it's the adults' job to meet the emotional needs of children but not the children's job to meet the adults' emotional needs.
  • At moments of despair, putting your hand on your heart helps your body and mind to ease.  This also works when your children are at the edge of a tantrum...  you might like to try putting your hand on the small of your children's back.  This physical therapeutic touch works like magic.
  • Taking deep belly breaths also help in keeping our cool.
  • Your job as a parent is not to focus on how you feel about your children's behavior but to understand the intention and need that causes their behavior...  
Enjoy parenting today and everyday :)


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